Let’s Talk About “SELF LOVE”

4th August 2018
Hello Ladies and Gentlemen!
A happy New Month and a chilling weekend to you all.?

So, the issue of “self love” has been on my mind to write about for a while now and I thought; the best time to write about it is NOW. I’m sick and tired of seeing people’s captions on Social Media as;
“#self love”
“love yourself”
“only me matter”
“me, myself and I”
“my life, my rules”
“I am King”
“I love me” e.t.c

Everything they ever post about is me, myself and I. If you’re one of those that can’t do without using or thinking any of these captions, you need Jesus.

Don’t get me wrong; I’m not against this concept. I mean, I’m a petite 28 year old female, I’m not exactly big in all ramifications and when people look at me, they tell me they love my body which is something I’ve been struggling with for a while now. Thus, I’ve been learning to love my body. So, you see, I’ve got my own physical insecurities as well as other life insecurities too. Also, a fat person could be learning to love themselves to reject the societal misconception of the true meaning of “beautiful”, a dark skinned woman/man confesses self love daily with the “melanin” mantra cos they are now embracing that black is beautiful, a tailor sings “self love” while riding the machine cos he/she has learnt to think beyond the name to the status of “fashion designer’ and so on and so forth. All of these are positive vibes, however, I have issues with the way people abuse the meaning of “Self Love”

Let’s at least understand the literal meaning of self love; it is what it is, the love of one’s self. Going further to understand what it stands for, it is basically the promotion of a high self esteem for individuals to love themselves regardless of their flaws, to believe in themselves and to see themselves capable of greatness. This is basically to kill depression, hopelessness as well as the “I am not enough” syndrome that could eventually lead to a mental breakdown, suicide attempts or suicide itself. But what we have these days; sadly, is contrary to the true meaning of this concept.

Self love now means vanity, selfishness and narcissism. It is now extreme obsession with the self regardless of the negative impact a “self love” decision could have on others. Self love is now a moral flaw and it is upsetting when you see people displaying this stupidity with such relish like they are doing the world a favor by being selfish.


  1. self love is not you hoarding money from your friends and then going ahead to lavish it on yourself cos you feel you deserve to be spoilt extravagantly.
  2. Self love is not you being mean to others and then being over the top nice to yourself. That’s selfishness.
  3. Self love is not you being petty all the time, that’s your lack of emotional intelligence.
  4. Self love is not being too proud to regard people as being humans just like you, that ‘s you being egoistic.
  5. Self love is not you seeing yourself as always blameless while others are always wrong, that’s you being manipulative.
  6. Self love is not you deriving pleasure in always breaking the rules,
  7. It is not you projecting a trophy image of yourself to people while you project a false image of others,
  8. It isn’t you having an entitlement mentality, always wanting to be treated specially than others, always wanting people to pity you and be considerate to you while you aren’t to others, or always wanting a preferential treatment than others
  9. Self love is not you being very charismatic and persuasive with people for your own self gratification. You tend to show false interest in people just because you want to get something from them and the moment you do, you drop them without a second thought.
  10. Self love is not you having an exaggerated sense of self importance. You always feel that without you or your “magnificent” contributions to people’s lives, they can’t survive.
  11. Self love is not you spreading negative emotions like throwing tantrums or getting upset at the slightest opportunity because you aren’t getting any attention.
  12. Self love is not you being too quick to judge, blame, criticize or name tag while you are extremely sensitive to criticism. You never want to hear that you’re wrong
  13. Self love isn’t you being unapologetically manipulative. You always use people as an extension of yourself. You always spread guilt and want people to always be indebted to you. You want people to sacrifice their all for you just because, in your tiny little head, you think “I DESERVE IT ALL”
  14. Self love is not you consistently cheating on your partner and then feeling hurt when they do it back at you.
Self love is basically;
  1. loving yourself in an unbiased way
  2. being able to take responsibility for your actions
  3. having a positive mental attitude towards yourself, your flaws and not just embracing those flaws but working on them to become a gem that projects you positively to the world
  4. allowing others to breathe just as you’re breathing
  5. investing in yourself and investing your time to more positive ventures
  6. building your mind and protecting your thoughts
  7. working on your emotions
  8. working at building a great personality that doesn’t require you to bring down others to be elevated
  9. Accepting people for who they are but aiming to make an impact in their lives
  10. working on your spirituality to spread love and not hate
  12. and having a high self esteem.
So, if you’re a self love addict, check yourself cos you just might be at the verge of becoming a selfish, egoistic, vain, morally decadent narcissist.
Remember, this is my Frankly Speaking opinion.
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I am a wordsmith, a story teller (I love to gist with my pen/keyboard) a mind traveler who's traveled around the world in her head and is currently taking trips across the human mind. I am a content curator, a fashion enthusiast with an eclectic style, a SAPIOSEXUAL with a loud mind. I'm a music, fun, life and family lover. I'm obsessed with hard cover books and most importantly, I'm a GOD lover. My writing is all about unbiased and unrestrained EXPRESSION. I let loose when I write and I look forward to readers who aren't stuck up in a stereotypical mindset of thinking only within the box. And Yes! My FSWG series are originally created and written from scratch to finish by ME. And if you ask me, ANYTHING and EVERYTHING inspires the creation of my stories. So, if you haven't read any yet; they're available on the blog for your reading pleasure. My mission is to create a space where people can speak their minds and engage their thoughts. I aim to inspire, motivate and entertain you though, I don't know how funny I am. Thanks for finding my blog. Let's evolve together.

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